The ink has dried on your legal paperwork and your divorce is final. That’s “it” right? Everything is “done.”
Not exactly…
It’s completely normal to feel a lack of closure at the end of the legal process. It takes courage and vulnerability to actually spend time digesting the transition that just occurred and working through the variety of transitions that lie ahead due to the divorce. It can be extremely overwhelming and discouraging to handle self-discovery on your own. Friends & family are too invested in your outcome and have their own opinions of what you should do - but how do YOU feel? Where do YOU want to go?
So, how do you put yourself first after your divorce? By committing to consistent, scheduled time on your calendar for yourself. And you must honor that commitment. Think about it, when you schedule a meeting with someone else (whether for business or pleasure) you keep your promise to those other people. You must keep the promise to yourself to schedule time for you.
You just went through the legal process where you had to make several decisions to help restructure your family. But who are YOU? Who do you want to be? Are you changing careers or going back into the workforce for the first time in several years? Do you want to date again? Would you like your confidence back and want to embrace more self-love?! Are you feeling excitement about all of the opportunities but you don’t know where to start?
The good news is, you don’t have to go through this post-divorce journey alone. The Coaching relationship provides the consistency and support that you need to keep your promise. As your coach, I will partner with you to help you become more self-aware of how you are showing up. Once you are more self-aware, we can start to explore where you want to go. Be selfish. Block off time for yourself. You get to decide how you want to feel during this next chapter of life.
-JH-